I’ve owned a company for almost 8 years. Four of those I have had children. Is running a company easy?
add children to that mix and it makes the task seem enormous.
I am asked a lot about how I balance children, marriage, self-growth, and running a company. ( mainly by my staff who wonder how it all gets done) So I decided to sit down and share some of the most and sometimes painful lessons I have learned while being a momepreneur ( yes for those who are not millennials that is a real term)
1. Set up your priorities.
Before kids’ life was easy. I literally only worried about my marriage, the business, and myself…Enter the two little bundles of joy and priorities went out of the window. I will admit with great pain that for several years I continued to push the business before the kids in some cases. I missed countless family Saturdays, dinner times, and holiday parties. All because mom had to be at the bakery. Yet there was a moment when suddenly something hit me. Kids come before the Business. (I know that sounds like a no brainer but thanks for the extension of grace) Once I sat down and made the decision that I would be a present and happy mom both my children and my business began to flourish. Go figure, right?
2. Let your Yes be Yes, and your No be No.
One of the hardest pills I had to swallow was this one. Sitting down and making my decisions consciously was almost impossible for a people pleaser like myself. I want to be available for all who need me, but the truth is. I can’t be at EVERYTHING. I have to be completely solid and content with the opportunities, responsibilities, and projects I take on. If I say yes it’s because I have thought about it and it what you are asking for aligns with my priorities and time schedule. If I say no, first that was incredibly hard for me to do and secondly it’s because it simply did not align.
3. Time management (enter sick emoji)
ok ladies….. with children…… is it just me or do our clocks NOT have 24 hours in them! Thanks to my new best friends Rachel Hollis and Chritsy Right I have learned that time management is not something you are born with, and it is definitely something that you have to practice and work on. It involves the 2 prior mentioned items. You have to schedule according to your priorities and be ok with sometimes saying no. For example, I only work every other Saturday. Sometimes no Saturdays, simply because those are family days. Reserved for cuddling and adventures with my husband and kids. I don’t work late hours at the store because it’s important for me to put my babies to bed and pray with them. I only got to networking events I want to go to, and I rarely work holidays because I rather be at home with my family having get together s.
4. Let the kids be involved.
My children know exactly what I do, and they love that mom owns a business. They love that I am intentional when I’m with them, but they respect when it’s time for me to work because they have seen, felt, touched, and lived what mom does. Don’t be ashamed of what you do. For example…. It’s mothers day weekend. I am at work because we have three wedding deliveries. But I spent the entire morning with my babies. As I got ready to leave I told them there where three beautiful brides waiting for mommy’s cakes. My son got so excited and asked me to see pictures of the cakes. As I walked out he said “ Bye Mommy, go deliver the cakes to the pretty brides and we’ll meet you at the pool”